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6月3日 The Plight of the Military Wife......I grew up a military brat, air force as a matter of fact. I adored the lifestyle of being military, all the kids were instant friends because we all knew what it was like to be the dreaded 'new kid'. There were of course still typical cliques but they were more based on hobbies or interests and not quite as elitist as those horrid civilian kids. When my Dad died in '89 we moved from a *very* progressive Las Vegas into the middle of absolute nowhere Illinois. It was culture shock for sure, I graduated 3 years later as the 'new kid' despite my best efforts to assimilate into their corn growing cow tipping society. Fast forward a couple years past graduation and you'll find me marrying this cute Navy boy and joining the ranks of not military brats but military wives. I thought it'd be the same gig, everybody embraces you because they know what it's like to be the 'new kid' blah blah blah. Well, not so much. I found myself outside yesterday playing w/the children when another mom came down w/her children and a spare. It was nice everybody played and we did the typical jabber of soccer woes and party plans. Nothing deep or thought provoking just enjoying a summer day and the sound of kids playing together. A while later the other childs mom came down to join us. I really like both the moms, but I just realize how different it is being a military wife. One of the moms went house by house and told me about the occupants and their children. It wasn't bad things really, it was just tidbits about the dwellers in each hovel. I was shocked that she knew everybody and their stats, and then I asked about our neighborhood street cred ;) and she said that nobody knows about us because we are never outside (rubbing hands together bwahahahaha) she said that we are the neighborhood "vampires" who only come out after dusk and never during the day to play. It sorta made me chuckle because I'm glad that we didnt made the news in our neighborhood. I'll happily be those wierd people who you can't dish dirt on, whether it be because we're boring or because they can't see our reflections in the mirror! Honestly this isn't an isolated sort of mentality, a friend of mine who lives in Virginia has told me about other people introducing themselves in her neighborhood with "So what rank is your husband?" not "Hi my name is...." while there might be a sense of community there is also a sense of entitlement to knowing your business. I wonder if since my experience is limited to the military I think it only exists within our ranks......maybe it's universal. Maybe it's another component of the never ending torture that is highschool revisted in our adulthood. I certainly hope it's a military thing for I'm looking forward to a civi life that doesnt include so many rumor weeds. 引用通告此日志的引用通告 URL 是： http://adventuresinmotherhood.spaces.live.com/blog/cns!79371AC83ACBBA8D!165.trak 引用此项的网络日志
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